I hope 2016 is treating you well. It’s been a long time since I’ve posted. It has been a little of a struggle to remain inspired however I have learned that inspiration doesn’t always have to come from something new. It sometimes comes from the things that make you happy. With that said, listed below are a few items that I can’t live without. What are your current must haves?
- Mossimo Avie Booties
- Olivia Blake London Candle (wild mint and white tea)-T.J. Maxx
- Black and white pouch. I received this from in a Sephora promotion. I fill mine with lip balm, headphones, hand sanitizer, moisturizer, etc.
- Cat Eye Sunnies
- Sephora Mirror- Gifted
- Cross body Bag– Similar
- Nightmoth Lipliner
- Ruby Woo Lipstick
- Pencil Sharpener
One of my favorite YouTubers (BronzeGoddess01) recently posted the above quote on her instagram page. While reflecting on the topic, I was reminded that fall is God’s way of letting us know that in order to thrive we must let go of the dead areas of our lives. A dead area could be a relationship, a job, or physical objects. It could also pertain to a negative thought or experience you are holding on to. Every now and then, it is important to evaluate our lives and remove the things that aren’t serving us in a positive way. This is easier said than done however it is essential to your growth. Letting go does not mean you’ve given up. It just means that you are choosing your happiness.
Starting over can be a difficult process. Whether it is planned or unexpected, transitioning can be filled with fear and anxiety. As humans we tend to develop routines that lead to a level of comfort. This is understandable because there is a bit of contentment in the familiar and in knowing what to expect. However life happens and we sometimes find ourselves in situations in which our routines are interrupted. And these interruptions can lead to fear.
If we can learn to embrace change as it comes then we would learn that starting over is not that scary. What’s more are the lessons we learn about life, ourselves, and others during these times. Lessons such as trusting your instincts, resourcefulness, kindness, humility, and the strength of human spirit can all be learned during the transitionary periods of life.
There will undoubtedly be moments of anxiety however we have to remember that they are just moments. At the end of the day, things always work out for the best.
If you are starting over, try to embrace this chapter of your life. Who knows, it may be the best one. Remember to pray and remain positive. You can do this!
Strength shows, not only in the ability to persist, but the ability to start over. -F. Scott Fitzgerald
Mondays can be rough. Between rush hour, deadlines and all of the other craziness that Mondays can bring, it’s easy to start off your week stressed. Listed below are a few tips to help you get through your manic Mondays.
Get ready, set, go– Planning for the upcoming week can help cut down on the amount of stress you experience on Mondays. Try preparing your meals, to-do list, and outfits for the week on Sunday night. Try doing the same for your children (if you have any). You will be amazed on how much of a difference this will make on Monday morning (and every other day during the week).
Say a little prayer for you– Saying a word of thanks each morning is a great way to get the day started on the right foot. It only takes a few moments and it helps to put you in a positive frame of mind. If praying isn’t your thing, try meditating or doing a few breathing exercises.
Set the mood– Surround yourself with things that make you feel good. Music is a great mood booster. If you are not into music, try listening to an uplifting podcast. If you share an office and/or cannot listen to anything while you work, try purchasing fresh flowers or posting positive quotes at your desk.
Give me a break– Take a small break during the day to clear your mind. Mondays tend to be very busy however it is important to take some time for yourself. Studies have found productivity goes up after employees take a short break. If possible, step away from your desk for a few minutes and focus your energy on something outside of work.
Don’t take it personal– Try not to be so hard on yourself. If you happen to make a mistake or do not complete everything on your to do list, try to shake it off. This may sound a little cliche but as long as you do your best then the rest will take care of itself.
In the past, I have struggled with being positive. While I would consider myself a good person, I wasn’t always the most positive. As I matured, I realized that my negativity was making me miserable. So I decided to do some soul searching. In doing this I realized that I needed to become more positive in order to become a more happy and productive person.
For me, becoming a positive person is a process. I learned that I had to change the way I think and live. Positivity is a muscle that has to be exercised daily. And while I am not completely there yet, each day I become more positive. Here are some of the things that I do to stay positive:
1. I surround myself with positive people. We all have a negative friend or family member. And while they do not mean to, they often times infect us with their negativity. Something as small as a negative remark can have a huge effect on your mood. I realized that I have to be careful of the company that I keep. Since I do not want to completely cut ties with some of my loved ones, I decided to create boundaries for myself. This allowed me to continue to have relationships with my loved ones without sacrificing my happiness. By far, this has been the most difficult yet rewarding step of the process.
2. I pray. Prayer changes things. Prayer not only changes my circumstance but also my mindset. It is kind of hard to be negative while praying.
3. I make a conscious effort to engage in activities that make me happy. I really enjoy music, fashion, decorating, organizing, and learning new things. Each day, I try to partake in an activity that makes me happy. Whenever I am having a bad day, I listen to music and my mood improves instantly. It works almost every time.
4. I cancel all negative thoughts and emotions. The opposite of negative is positive. Therefore each time a negative thought enters my mind, I replace it with a positive one. For example, each time I subconsciously tell myself that I cannot do something, I simply say: I can definitely can do that. It seems so simple however it is so effective. I learned that I needed to change the way that I speak, think, present and treat myself.
5. I give. I experience so much positivity from giving. The person on the receiving end usually benefits and I benefit by knowing that I had a positive effect on someone else’s life. Each time I give (time, money, clothing, etc.), I walk away feeling better about myself.